Thursday, November 19, 2009

the crippling "what if?'s"

If I asked myself crippling "what if" questions all day, I would be just that....crippled. Of course I have times where I do get crippled by the what if's in life, but I move on. I choose to move on and just live. I give thanks for what is, and let go of what if. Yes I could get swine flu from my niece who has it, but am I willing to not meet my brand new nephew because of a "what if I get the swine flu?" Heck No! We could all what if ourselves into oblivion at any given moment, but where does that get us? This is where faith comes in.

It's not just about having faith that everything will work out how we want it to, but faith that everything will work out for the highest good, even if it's not our idea of the highest good. I do believe we come into this world with lessons laid out for us. We go through what our soul needs to go through for it's own growth. This doesn't mean that we have no control over what happens in our life, it's just that the sooner we learn that we only have limited control, the better off we are. Anxiety over "what if" does no good to anyone, especially ourselves. Any one of us could drop dead, get hit by a bus, lose someone, get cancer just as any one of us can accomplish our goals, live our dream, and find peace and happiness. It's all about that we'll be ok, trust that our lives on earth are not all that there is and ever was, while at the same time living in the moment as if this moment is all there is. We know it's not, but it's what there is right now and right now is where we have to give ourselves. We don't get to choose what happens to us, but we do get to choose what to do with it. We get to choose our actions and our reactions. If we are having negative thoughts, we have the power to change them. It's not always easy, and it does take practice, but we do have the power to change our thoughts.

I believe that we are doing a divine dance where we get to both accept and choose. We accept what is, what we need to grow, what our lives are as well as ourselves and others. At the same time we get to take steps towards how we want our life to be. If we are going in the direction we are meant to go, fulfilling our purpose on earth, we will be supported in that. I don't believe we should take a totally passive approach to our lives, letting what will be, be, but we also have to resign to having total control, because we never will have it and we hurt ourselves and others trying to accomplish it.

Here's to walking that fine line of balance between co-creation and acceptance, our will and divine will, and may we find the beauty in all of it, even the parts that we don't want or choose, let us trust that it is serving a bigger purpose. Let us rise to each occasion. Blessed be!

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